Loved up vs single
Reckon you'd be happier with a girl/boyfriend? Or wish you were single and on the pull?
It doesn’t matter whether you’re part of a couple or single and lovin’ it – there’ll always be moments when you wish your relationship status was different. Why? Because there are ups and downs to both being single and being in a relationship.
What rocks about being single:
- Spending more time with your friends. Chilling, partying together, checking out the talent and having a laugh.
- Flirting. The lingering eye contact, cheesy chat up lines and body language. It’s such fun decoding it all!
- Doing whatever you like. No watching TV programmes you hate, no being dragged to shops that bore you, no hanging out with your boy/girlfriend’s mates when you could be having fun with your own friends. When you’re single, it’s all about you!
- Time for new interests. If you’re not spending your free time snogging, then you can learn something new. There’s usually loads of interesting classes going on at community centres, sports centres and swimming pools. Visit them and see if anything takes your fancy.
When being single’s a bummer:
- If all your friends are loved up, you can feel left out of things.
- If your parents annoy you about getting married just because they were married by the age of 20.
- If you’ve nobody to fancy and think about during boring classes or long work days.
Why being part of a couple is lurvely:
- Spending time with someone you fancy/love to bits!
- Having someone to give you a hug when you’re feeling down.
- Not having to go on the pull.
- Being happy to have found 'the one'... or at least 'the one' for right now!
When coupledom makes you cringe:
- If you fight, the emotional rollercoaster just ain’t fun.
- When your boy/girlfriend likes public displays of affection and you don’t.
- Juggling your time so that you can manage to see your friends as well as yourself.
- If there’s pressure on you to have sex or go further than you want to. If you are feeling pressured to do something you don't want to do or don't feel comfortable with: SAY NO! Respect your own choices and make sure to respect your partner and that they respect you.
- If you are in an abusive relationship. Abuse can include neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse. Men, women, young people and adults are all at risk of abuse. Nobody has the right to hurt you physically or emotionally, even if they’re in a position of authority or say they love you.
Finally, no matter whether you're single or coupled up, remember the age of consent for sex is 17 in the Republic of Ireland, and 16 in Northern Ireland. Find out about contraception and how to protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections.