You don’t need to be part of a couple to celebrate this Valentine’s Day
What are you waiting on?
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"People shouldn't have to feel like they have to get a date just to be 'in' with everyone else."
Are you a romantic? Valentine’s day exists once a year specifically for those who want to spend time with loved ones, or even ask someone out for the first time. I’m actually a closet romantic, despite never having had a boyfriend before. But hey, never too late right?
I say to myself every year that this is the year where I’ll actually be doing something with someone else. Alas, I usually end up celebrating with other singletons or helping out in a Valentine’s themed event. This year is no different, and although I have no plans for the moment, this does not mean I am not open to invitations to hang out places, or meet someone new.
Despite my lack of experience (don't laugh), I don’t feel like Valentine’s day is a waste of time. It can help create business and boost the local economy, especially during down times. It also gives people the chance to show their loved ones how much they mean to them, and can often give couples an excuse to do something fun, or try that new restaurant. I think it gives people the chance to appreciate who they’re with, and a chance to celebrate how they feel with them.
People are so busy during the other 364 days of the year running around, trying to keep everything up in the air, that it’s nice to be given a chance to take a break and relax. A designated day once a year is the perfect solution to that. And Valentine's day is a good time to look for love as well as celebrating it!
Nowadays people can meet in so many different ways, especially with the uses of Tinder and other online dating sites constantly on the rise. Celebrating Valentine's day needn't necessarily be just for couples. I think it could evolve into something that is celebrated within a family, or even friendships.
I think a lot of us can say that we do love our family and even certain friendships we have with other people can be very close knit. There are so many things that can be done on Valentine's Day. Apart from the typical 'dinner night out', people can try things like taking an arts and crafts class, a cooking class, or even go paint balling. Why not? It's definitely something you wouldn't do everyday and you can learn something new from it too. If it's not the first time you're meeting someone, chances are you've already spent a good bit of time getting to know each other and the typical dinner night out is something that has been done just too many times. It could be nice to change up the routine and do something different.
I've heard time and time again of so many people desperately looking for a date just so they can spend Valentine's day doing something. While I do think that it would be nice, I don't think it is compulsory. People shouldn't have to feel like they have to get a date just to be 'in' with everyone else. There are so many things that you can do if you're not on a date.
Apart from the typical 'anti-date night' type of events, you can also spend the night going out with friends, or if you're feeling especially generous - maybe volunteering during the night.
About two years ago I helped out at a Valentine's Charity ball. It was a Venetian themed masquerade ball and all the girls spent the night dressed up in medieval gowns and wearing face masks. It was a really enjoyable experience and I ended up making friends with a few people, some of whom I still keep in touch with today. It opened my eyes to how other people spent their night, and it also gave me a chance to experience the performances and events with them. I'm not sure if that same ball is still running this year, but I'm sure there are plenty of similar events going on around the country. A lot of the time, one just has to look around, to find things that are going on.
Happy Valentine's Day!!