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Growing up in a small town has its perks and challenges. Falling in love means seeing your partner often, but breaking up means running into them everywhere. I know this well.<\/p>\n

Young love and first heartbreak<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In 2018, I had my first boyfriend. We were in the same class throughout primary school. He was quiet, and I was the opposite. After two months, I noticed he paid more attention to our mutual friend than to me. We broke up, and I moved on.<\/p>\n

Fast forward to secondary school. Niall and I shared a few classes, but I barely noticed him for three years\u2014he was that quiet. He had grown his hair out during lockdown, it was so long people called him \u2018blonde Jesus.\u2019<\/p>\n

In March 2022, at fifteen, I saw him walking up a hill with a fresh haircut. I was so shocked that I dropped my drink. Later, I asked my friends if they’d noticed his new haircut, and they had. After some encouragement from a mutual friend, I nervously added him on Snapchat. To my surprise, he accepted.<\/p>\n

We talked for a couple of weeks until he invited me out to hang with him and his friends at the end of April. The anxiety ate me up inside the day I went out to them, but I powered through. At the start of May, he asked me to be his girlfriend, I said yes.<\/p>\n

When love turns into heartbreak<\/strong><\/h2>\n

At first, our relationship<\/a> was very light-hearted. But then he started to change. His friends also saw his personality becoming darker, so I didn’t feel like I was going crazy, thinking it was just me.<\/p>\n

By October, he had started hanging out with another crowd- and he lied about it. I found out about it when I was talking to our mutual friend while I was in school. I confronted him, and he only admitted the truth because he got caught.<\/p>\n

The next month was torture<\/a> for me. He kept lying about where he was and who he was with. He hid his actions from his family as much as from me. I couldn’t take the gaslighting and emotional rollercoaster anymore. A few days before Christmas, I ended it. A partner should not make your mental well-being worse.<\/p>\n

The struggle of seeing an ex every day<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Getting over him took longer than I ever expected. In April 2023, I started to go to therapy<\/a>. I was still upset because I had to see him five days a week. After all, we were in the same school year. I needed therapy to help me manage the stress of that situation. Therapy helped me after such a tormenting<\/a> relationship.<\/p>\n

Healing was slow, but my biggest relief came at graduation in 2024. The moment I realised I\u2019d never have to see him again felt like pure freedom. I\u00a0 practically sprinted out of that school, eager to leave behind every painful memory, especially him.. I avoided him at the debs, but I still managed to have fun with his friends, who thankfully all still liked me.<\/p>\n

I did learn a hard truth: they were his friends, not mine. And that\u2019s okay. It\u2019s a lesson I won\u2019t forget in future relationships.<\/p>\n

With time and distance, I finally healed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"template":"","class_list":["post-79557","real-life-stories","type-real-life-stories","status-publish","hentry","reallife_topic-feel-better","reallife_topic-feeling-stressed-or-low","reallife_topic-find-services","reallife_topic-general-wellbeing","reallife_topic-get-information","reallife_topic-grief","reallife_topic-relate-to-others","reallife_topic-talk-to-someone"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nHeartbreak and healing: How I moved on from my first love - spunout navigator<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, follow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_GB\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Heartbreak and healing: How I moved on from my first love - spunout navigator\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Growing up in a small town has its perks and challenges. 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