Tips on getting over your ex
Kelly gives her tips on beating the breakup blues
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Whether it’s over text or face to face, being dumped is never easy. Heartbreak is a feeling that you will know as soon as it hits you, and sometimes dealing with a broken heart can prove extremely difficult. In the days, weeks and even months after a break up, you might feel like your whole world has come crashing down on top of you. However there are ways of dealing with it all. The majority of people at one point in their life have been through a breakup, from your Mam to Gran, even your Dad and Granddad, so the first thing to remember is that you are not alone.
Another thing to remember is that most people get over heartbreak and even better they find love again. They don’t say there are plenty of fish in the sea for no reason! So here are some tips to get you on the road to recovery and getting over the ex.
Talk about it
Things are never easy to keep inside, so surround yourself with people you are comfortable talking about the situation to. As you go on about what happened you will gradually feel that it is getting somewhat easier.
This will be extremely difficult but beneficial. It does not have to be forever, but to get over losing someone you have to keep your distance. Hide all photographs, cuddly teddy bears and other reminders as they will bring you on an emotional rollercoaster you do not want to ride.
Do not drink and text
Over the next while alcohol will give you some crazy amount of courage, especially when it comes to texting your ex. If you find yourself telling them everything from how much you miss them to meeting up, you need to delete their number because at this moment in time you cannot trust yourself.
Do not have sex with your ex
You might find that your ex might want to come over and collect some belongings that they left in your house. On occasions this can lead to the bedroom. This can leave you feeling really emotional and confused but most of the time it leads to nothing but a one night stand. If your ex realises that the single life is not for them and they want you back, make a decision at a later date but never have sex before that point!
Organise your time
You might find that you have a lot more free time now with nothing to do. With college or work keeping you busy during the week sometimes your weekends might feel never ending. Make sure to meet up with friends, go to the movies or even just a hike to clear your mind and keep yourself occupied.
From having a bath to even exercising, this will all help build up your appreciation for yourself. When you get dumped you feel like it’s your fault and the weight of the world feels like it’s on your shoulders. Stop thinking so negatively and mentally beating yourself up about the break up, it takes two to tango!
It is not a bad thing to cry! Cry as much as you like as the more you hold back the tears the more it creates an emotional block.
Most of the time we see a break up as a complete, world ending disaster; however a break up means that it is time for change. A time to wake up and smell the coffee, it is a chance to grow, learn and believe that good things will happen. So chin up guys, everything will get better!