Distinguishing unhealthy and healthy relationships
Having a positive relationship is good for your mental health.
A relationship can be with anyone you know – romantic or platonic. A relationship is a connection with another person. Some are healthy, others are bad for you. Read on to help you distinguish the good from the bad.
In a good relationship you should feel:
- Positive and comfortable about yourself.
- Confident and loved, wanted, needed and useful.
- Having a happy positive relationship is good for your mental health, this goes for all relationships like with your parents, family, friends and boy/girlfriend.
In a bad relationship you could be left feeling:
- Confused! You could be loving and hating the person at the same time.
- Angry with yourself or them.
- Depressed and worthless.
These kind of feelings can bring you down and affect your mental health, that's why it's so important to choose your friends wisely. Negative feelings can impact on you and affect your future relationships. If you are in a relationship that is abusive, be that emotionally, physically or sexually, it's time to sort it out – or get out. There's no point staying in a relationship just for the sake of it. Communicate how you really feel and if your needs aren't being met stop fooling yourself; it's time to move on.
Tips for better communication:
- Try to listen to the other person's point of view even if you don't agree
- Be respectful (even if the other person is not)
- Don't resort to cursing, shouting or put-downs
- Try to let the other person finish before you have your say
- Make your point as clearly as you can
- Choose a good time to discuss touchy subjects
- Be as open and honest as you can
- Be reasonable. Ask for what you want but accept that sometimes it is not possible or practical. Communicating well means telling each other in an open and honest way what you think – the good and the not so good.