Being sexually attracted to the opposite sex
What does it mean to be heterosexual?
Being heterosexual means you're sexually attracted to the opposite gender. Another common term for heterosexual is "straight".
If you’re heterosexual you probably fancy, feel attracted to, are excited by the opposite gender or masturbate to thoughts of them. If you're a boy, it means you're attracted to girls, and if you're a girl, it means you're attracted to boys.
Doesn’t everyone feel that way?
Nope! Many people are only attracted to the same gender, and some people are attracted to more than one gender. When someone is exclusively attracted to the same gender, this is called being gay. When someone is attracted to more than one gender, this is called being bisexual.
- Remember that being straight isn't necessarily the default way to be. It’s also totally normal for people to be gay or bisexual.
- You don’t need to be having sex to prove that you're straight. Just because you’re not having sex with a member of the opposite gender, doesn’t mean you’re gay.
- You don’t have to fancy every member of the opposite gender that walks by.
- You don't need to act like a typical man or woman to fit into a stereotype.
- It's also possible for a transgender person to identify as heterosexual. Being trans* doesn't make you are any less heterosexual.
- You’re in control of your sexuality and can decide if you want to get involved with someone or not.
What if I fancy someone of the same sex?
It’s totally normal for a straight person to fancy someone of the same gender at different stages in their life, just like it’s totally normal for a gay person to fancy someone of the opposite gender at different stages of their life. Sexuality can be fluid and it’s ok for it to change at certain points. Fancying someone of the same gender doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, but it’s up to you if you want to explore these feelings, and the choice is your’s as to whether you identify as straight, gay or bi.