Common myths about bisexuality
Identifying the facts from fiction when it comes to bisexuality
There are a whole bunch of popular preconceptions and myths about all members of the LGBT community, but bisexual people have to deal with a specific set of myths unique to them. Bisexual people sometimes face discrimination from within the LGBTI+ community, as well as from outside of it, so it’s really important to challenge these myths, and be respectful of everyone no matter what their sexual orientation is!
Myth: Bisexuality is just a phase before someone comes out as gay or lesbian.
Fact: It is true that some people identify as bisexual before later identifying as something else, just like it’s true that many people identify as straight before identifying as LGBT. Some people may identify as lesbian or gay before coming out as bisexual. Sexual orientation can be fluid and change at different points - but bisexuality is no more a phase than anything else.
Myth: Bisexual people just can’t make up their mind.
Fact: Being bisexual isn’t a choice, so making up your mind isn’t even a part of it! Bisexual people are attracted to both men and women - this is totally normal and they don’t need to make up their mind.
Myth: All women are bisexual and no men are bisexual.
Fact: This is absolutely not the case. Bisexual people come in all genders - men, women and everything in between. This myth is also based on the gender stereotype that women are sexually fluid, emotional and tender, and men aren’t, and these stereotypes just aren’t true.
Myth: You can’t identify as bisexual unless you’ve been with more than one gender.
Fact: Loads of people know they’re bisexual before they ever even have sex with anyone. You don’t need to have romantic or sexual experiences with both genders before identifying as bisexual. Many people know they are bisexual before they are ever in a relationship, just like many people know they’re gay or straight at young ages.
Myth: You can’t be bisexual unless you like two genders equally.
Fact: There are some bisexual people who are attracted to men mostly, but are attracted to women occasionally. Likewise, there are some bisexual people who are attracted to women mostly, but are attracted to men occasionally. Some bisexual people may be equally attracted to both men and women, but the only thing that all bisexual people have in common is that they are attracted to people of more than one gender.
Myth: All bisexual people sleep around and have loads of partners.
Fact: There are plenty of bisexual people in loving, monogamous relationships, and there are plenty who will get married. While just like gay and straight people, there are plenty of bisexual people who do have multiple relationships at one time, relationships between bisexual people are just as varied and diverse as any other orientations.
Myth: Bisexual people aren’t as oppressed as gay and lesbian people.
Fact: Bisexual people sometimes can lack visibility in both straight and gay communities. Furthermore, they’re often subject to the same discrimination as gay and lesbian people, as well as specific biphobic prejudice.
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