Is online dating right for me?

Online dating and dating apps are a common part of dating for most people. Many people find online dating to be a good way of meeting compatible people with similar interests. However, like any form of dating, it comes with its own specific set of risks that you need to keep in mind when you’re thinking of taking your first steps into the digital dating world.

In this article

• What are the advantages of online dating?
• What about the disadvantages?
• So is online dating right for me?
• Safety advice

What are the advantages of online dating?

If you’re struggling to meet people with similar interests in your day-to-day life, online dating can be a great way to find people with the same interests as you. If you aren’t that confident with approaching new people in-person, it can is also a great way to make an initial connection.

Other advantages of online dating are that it is fast, easy and convenient, usually a simple process and it’s easy to fit around your schedule. It can also be a great way to connect with others if you live rurally or are looking to match with people who are LGBTQ+ and don’t know many in person.

What about the disadvantages?

It’s easy to pretend to be a different person online, and unfortunately, this can happen on online dating sites. You never know who is at the other end of a conversation, and it is important to remember this when getting to know a person online. So even if you’re having a great chat with someone online, always approach cautiously – they may not be who they say they are.

Because people can stay anonymous on dating apps, it means that online dating can be used by sexual predators and other people with sinister motives. It’s really important you are aware of this, and keep yourself away from any dangerous situations.

Dating apps offer many different potential partners. This can lead to a shopper mentality, in which users can move on very quickly. It can make it more difficult to start up a longer-lasting relationship.

Sometimes it can be difficult to really judge how compatible you are with someone without having interacted with them face to face. Even though you may have had some amazing conversations online, when you meet face to face it could turn out that you are much less compatible that it had seemed.

So is online dating right for me?

There is a huge range of experiences you can get from online dating, and you will only find out if they are right for you by trying it. If you do decide to enter the world of online dating, make sure you are safe, comfortable, and protecting yourself at all times. If you are in a place where you are feeling low, or find that online dating is negatively impacting how you are feeling, you might consider staying away from online dating for awhile. It is always something you can come back to, or leave, depending on how you are feeling at the time.

Online dating safety advice

Online dating can be a great way to meet people, but you need to make sure everything stays safe. Just like you’d avoid dangerous situations in real life, you should avoid them online too.

Here are some tips for looking after your safety when online dating:

• Keep your personal information to yourself. Never give out your address, where you work, or where you go to school
• Do not ever give out your financial information
• Use your first name, or a nickname. Don’t give out your full name
• Let your friends and family know who you’re talking to online. Online dating is very common now, and nothing to be ashamed of. Open up and have conversations about it

Meeting with someone you met online

Before you decide to meet:

• Talk on the phone first; this will make it easier to determine that your date is the age and gender they say they are
• Be picky in who you give your number to
• Insist on calling the other person, and be sure to hide your number ahead of time.
• You could also consider doing a video call too to see that they are who they say they are

If you decide to meet in person:

• Make sure you meet in a busy public place. Go somewhere like a cafe, restaurant or shopping centre. You could even bring along a friend
• Always tell a friend or family member if you’re going to meet them. Tell them who you’re meeting, and where you’re going
• Don’t get into a car with someone you meet online. During your first few meetings, never get into a car with someone you met online
• Arrange your own transport in advance, so you know how your getting home
• Never feel under pressure to meet up or move too quickly with your relationship. If the relationship is really worth pursuing, the other person will respect and understand your need to move at your own pace
• If a person displays anger, tries to pressure you, gives inconsistent information about themselves, or refuses to speak to you on the phone, something isn’t right. Move on
• If you decide to meet someone, and feel in any way unsafe, call a friend or family member and ask that person to come and meet you. If you need to, call the police. Don’t be embarrassed. Be safe

For more information about protecting yourself online visit our Online Safey Hub.

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