Not everyone is straight, lesbian or gay. Some people may feel attracted to more than one gender or some people may have relationships with more than one gender. When you’re attracted to more than one gender, this is called bisexuality. Someone who is pansexual experiences attraction to people regardless of gender. There are many different sexual orientations someone might identify as.
Am I bisexual?
If you feel attracted to more than one gender (such as men and women), then you might be bisexual. To be bisexual, you don’t have to be attracted to multiple genders equally, and you don’t have to be attracted to multiple genders all the time. Your feelings might change at different points of your life, and this is totally okay.
But I’m in a relationship with someone from another gender
You might have relationships with different genders, or maybe you’ll only have relationships with one gender. You might only have sex with people from one gender, but still be attracted to another gender.
The strength of your feelings towards either gender may change over time and you can be bisexual and be abstinent or be bisexual and sexually active
None of this makes you any more or any less bisexual. No matter what gender you date or have sex with, it’s still possible and ok for you to be bisexual. Your sexual orientation is defined by you, not the by gender of the people you go out with or have sex with.
I fancy someone of one gender, but I usually only like another gender
Many straight people fancy someone of the same gender at some point in their lives, or even have a sexual or romantic experience with the same gender. Likewise, many gay or lesbian people fancy someone of a different gender at some point in their lives. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are bisexual. However, when these feelings continue or happen more often, then it may mean you are bisexual. Only you can know for sure.
Is it ok to be bisexual?
Of course! It is totally normal to be bisexual and there are many bisexual people. It’s ok to take time to experiment with your sexuality too – you don’t have to identify your sexuality with a label if you don’t want to. Just do what makes you happy.
Coming out is the process during which you accept your sexual orientation and begin to be open about it with yourself and with other people. For help with coming out, check out our article here.
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