Create a life quiz to remember a loved one

Losing a loved one is extremely difficult, and can bring up many emotions. Grief can affect people in different ways, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

It can take time to come to terms with the fact that a person is no longer with you. It’s important to give yourself the space you need to experience these feelings and remember to reach out to friends and family for support. There are also a number of support services available to help you at this time and throughout your grief process.

Creating a life quiz can be a way of exploring your own memories of your loved one who passed while connecting to those who knew your loved one. The intention of creating a life quiz is to help you focus on the person who lived rather than focusing on their death.

This quiz can be used whenever you choose, however it is commonly used to mark an anniversary of your loved one’s birth or death day. Below are a list of questions that you may want to include in the quiz.

It is best to make these questions with your family and friends who may only have answers to specific questions. Try to include questions that multiple people can answer, this way you can receive a variety of answers that build the complex and interesting person who lived.

Questions you could include:

1. What was their favourite colour?

2. What was the first band or artist they saw live?

3. What was their favourite sort of takeaway?

4. What was their favourite item of clothing?

5. If they controlled the TV remote, what did everyone have to watch?

6. What sport (if any) were they best at?

7. What was their favourite hobby?

8. If they had to do karaoke, what song would they have chosen?

9. What flavour ice cream would they have chosen out of every flavour in the world?

10. What was the naughtiest thing they did at school?

11. What was their best and worst subject in school?

12. Did they have a pet as a child? If so, what was its name?

13. What was the funniest thing they ever did?

14. Did they have a party trick?

15. Did they ever meet anyone famous?

16. When they were little, what did they want to be when they grew up?

17. What else happened in the world on the day they were born?

18. What did you like to do with them and why?

19. What was the very best thing about them?

20. What do you think their best qualities were?

21. What would they be proudest about from their life?

22. Was there a time they gave you some good advice? Describe this situation.

23. What is something that they did that inspired you?

24. What did they believe were their best qualities?

What should I do with the quiz after completing the answers to the questions?

What you do with the quiz is completely up to you. Here are some things you can do with the quiz:

• Find a private place for safekeeping
• Share it with other family members or friends
• Place it in your memory box
• Leave it as a memorial if there is a burial site

You may have lingering feelings after completing the quiz about the life of your loved one. If you need help dealing with difficult emotions, it’s okay to reach out for help from friends, family or services for support.

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